Defensiveness is a common relationship issue. It can stem from fear, shame, insecurity, or past trauma. Defensiveness looks like denying responsibility, making excuses, counterattacking, or shutting down. When we take the time to understand the root cause of defensiveness, this can help break the cycle and improve communication.

Everyone always hears that date nights are important, especially for long term relationships. But have you ever thought why besides the obvious “spending quality time together”?

Emotional invalidation or dismissiveness occurs when someone belittles or disregards your emotions, leading to feelings of disconnection, isolation, and confusion about what to do next.