Whether you’re setting boundaries, making a life decision that does not align with their values, or simply prioritizing your mental health, it’s important to remember that what you’re asking for is valid. What will really help you to stand your ground when talking with your parents is to understand the importance of the boundary that you’re setting and the decision that you’re making. If you enter a confrontation with your parents while still doubting the legitimacy of your decision, the minute your parents start to push back, you’ll end up giving into them and regretting your decision later.

Generational trauma has become a buzzword of sorts in the last decade, but what does it look like? How does something your grandparents experienced 50 years ago shape your mental health today? Let’s walk through a scenario:

Parenting is a journey filled with ups and downs and countless moments of self-reflection and scrutiny. Many parents struggle with feelings of guilt and shame, often feeling like they are failing their children in some way. These emotions can be incredibly powerful and, if left unaddressed, can impact not only your mental health but also your relationship with your children. There are ways to help you work through guilt and shame as you parent.