When we feel triggered in relationships, our nervous system activates and we're faced with a choice. How we respond in these heated moments can either build connection or create distance. Understanding your options gives you power over your reactions and helps you choose responses that align with your relationship goals.

What if I am avoiding sex with my partner?

If you ever thought this, you are not alone. Couples go through seasons their relationship and the frequency of sex and physical intimacy depends on so many factors. Let’s get into it:

Defensiveness is a common relationship issue. It can stem from fear, shame, insecurity, or past trauma. Defensiveness looks like denying responsibility, making excuses, counterattacking, or shutting down. When we take the time to understand the root cause of defensiveness, this can help break the cycle and improve communication.